Maegan has always been a good child. She listens, she follows instructions. She is happy, and loves life. We have never had any issues with Maegan what so ever…
Or rather, I am the one having issues. Apparently she is still an angel for Mike, but that is besides the point.
I just don’t know what to do. Over the last few weeks I have noticed Maegan becoming more, and more defiant. It doesn’t matter what it is, or what it is about. She just does not want to listen to me, or even acknowledge the fact I have spoken to her. The only way I can get her to “hear” me is to hold her by her shoulders and make her look me in the face. I will repeat myself, again. And I will ask her if she heard me. She will then answer, “I heard you the first 5 times. Stop talking to me.” Really!
I know this is her just being a 4-year old. Right? Or do I have a really problem?
I just don’t know anymore. I know there are a lot of stresses in our lives right now. So I am thinking that maybe she is feeding off of the vibes around the house. But this is getting out of control. It is getting to the point where I don’t want to leave the house with her for fear she will openly defy me, and I will lose my cool. I thought I had another 12 years before I had to deal with this behavior.
You know that saying, too many cooks spoil the soup? Well I think the saying in this instance would be, too many adults(parents) spoil the child.
I love my parents. I love the fact that Maegan has had the first 4 years of her life living with her grandparents… but I think it is time to move on. I think that maybe the major problem may be the fact that she knows that she can bypass me and go straight to my mother, or if that doesn’t work, straight to my father and she will get what she wants. My father is the biggest enabler of Maegan’s attitude problem. He gives in to her every whim, and command.
Sometimes I feel guilty telling him to lay off… or telling him to stop talking to her. But other times, I get so frustrated because he under minds my parenting. I know it isn’t on purpose. But sometimes it feels like it is.
Ok… I am going to end my rant now before it gets out of control.